KMM #4: How to Lift Your Mood!

Hey Hey! I’m Kacie May. Today we’re talking about mood lifters.

Are you feeling crummy?

Do you feel listless?

Do you poop out at parties?

Hopefully not :/

But guess what?!

Find something that puts you in a great mood!

We can change our mood?

OH yes we can!

We are in control of our emotions.

You want to feel great as often as possible because when you feel great you attract great things.

Like attracts like.

One mood lifter I LOVE is music.

I dare you. Find that one song, that one jam that makes you feel like JAMMIN!

And I dare you: don’t even dance. Don’t move a muscle. Just sit there. Don’t even smile.

Just sit there like this (straight face).

Do it right NOW!

(You’re trying to keep a straight face, then BAM! You perk up!)

We! Are! Fa-mi-ly! I got all my sisters and me! We! Are! Fa-mi-ly! Get up everybody and SING!

We! Are! Fa-mi-ly!

You’re WELCOME! ;)

As always, thank you for reading, stay tuned, Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful, and let’s connect at KacieMay.com.

Introducing Kacie May's Minutes

Hey hey! Welcome everyone. I’m Kacie May.

If we don’t know each other very well yet or if we do, doesn’t matter who you are, that’s perfect. Let’s get to know each other better.

The reason for this blog is to announce a video & blog series called Kacie May’s Minutes.

And the reason it’s called Kacie May’s Minutes is because each entry & video is only a few minutes long.

You’re welcome, people with A.D.D.! Squirrel!

Anyways, I’ll be talking about 3 topics:

Number 1: Personal Development related topics.

Number 2: Personal Styling related topics: How to Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful.

Number 3: The diary of my cancer journey: Hodgkin’s Lymphoma.

So come get some a nugget or two, get some value, come leave a comment, interact, and help build these beautiful communities that we’re building: How to Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful - LYFB- as well as Seacret, and then be on your way!

So as always: thank you for reading, stay tuned, and let’s connect at KacieMay.com.

Life Mentors and Coaches i.e. Titanic’s Jack & Rose

Titanic.

Jack saves Rose.

“In every way that a person can be saved”

She said she felt like she was

“Screaming at the top of her lungs and no one even bothers to look up”

She was unhappy with her life

with her relationships

her mom and fiance

living a life with not much happiness or joy.

Then Jack came in and ignited her spirit.

Realize that there are people who can help you become better if you recognize who they are and let them. These are your life mentors and coaches.

Jack saw her, was intrigued, almost immediately he started caring about her,

and it became: “You jump I jump”.

He literally helped her save her own life, and he was committed to interacting with her.

He helped her live a lighter and freer life, having more fun, dancing, riding roller coasters and horses.

His influence helped her realize she can make her own choices

instead of feeling obligated to make choices based on what another person said or what another person thinks she should do or be.

Jack’s commitment to Rose’s development

I think this is a big reason why this movie is such a success.

We all want this.

People who care about us, who bring out a better person in us, whoever they are

male, female, a lover, friend, relative, coach, mentor.

It’s about assisting in a person’s development and self actualization.

And you don’t need anyone to show you or tell you you can or cannot do something

or be or become something or someone.
Because you already got it in the bag, if you believe you do.
Henry Ford said, "If you believe you can or can't, either way you're right."

So all you really need is yourself making decisions and choices on your own behalf,

choosing what you want and living how you want to live.
And these people caring about us, helping us develop...this is a beautiful thing, too.

Rose became this person.

I am becoming this person

partly thanks to people in my life influencing me for the better, directly and indirectly.

Pay attention to who makes you better

and who you’re becoming as a result of their influence.

If you need someone like this maybe I can be this person for you.

Or maybe I know a person or people or even a beautiful, loving community who would be perfect for you.

Make it a great, loving, wonderful, luscious, abundant, prosperous, successful life

that you create,

not one that you feel obligated to.

In the comments below, tell us 3 things:

Something you’d like to be better at,

Something you’re proud of yourself for,

and the name of the person or people who are helping/helped make that a reality for you.

Thanks for reading, stay tuned, and let’s connect on KacieMay.com

I Am Not My Hair: Cancer Conquering Confidence

Today I’m talking about “I am not my hair” from my book 8 Values of a Cancer Conquering Personal Stylist: How to Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful.

Watch me talk about it in video here.

The reason I want to share with you about I am not my hair right now is because I just started losing my hair again. I was growing it back for a year, it was coming back, and it was almost looking normal.  And now it’s getting thin again. It’s because I’m taking a synthetic drug. I don’t think anything natural would make a person’s hair fall out.

What I’m discovering is we’re not defined by our hair. It’s just part of our physical being. What defines us really is what’s inside. What’s inside our hearts, what’s inside our heads, what our values are.

It’s part of our packaging though, of course, our physical self. It’s our visual business card, part of our marketing. I just heard recently that people judge the cover of a book before they read what’s inside. And this is true because we live in a visual society. It’s important to align who you are on the outside with who you are on the inside by dressing for your body type, lifestyle, and personality.

Bottom line is a person’s character is more important than their visual physical self. India.Arie, one of my fave musicians even made a song about it.

I don’t share with you my story for pity or for sympathy. I share my story to share the truth so you know what’s going on and maybe you can relate with me. Maybe you’re going through something similar, maybe something more intense. Maybe just hearing my story is impacting you or will impact you for the better.

I love my hair no matter what length it is. And if I lose it all again, if I have to shave it off again because I’m losing so much so fast, then so be it. I’ll just put my headscarves on again or I’ll just rock a bald head. It’s just hair. It will grow back. And if it doesn’t, then it’s ok. It’s just hair.

Another thing I want to share with you. I read this in the book Wisdom to Wellness by Maureen Minnehan Jones: People who have physical illnesses, there’s a soul discovery attached to it. It’s your soul giving your body a signal, a message. The one that’s attached to cancer is related to judgement. This is a broad term and can apply to many things or aspects of a person’s life. It’s something I’m experiencing and going through.

People who are conquering these mothers of physical illnesses...it’s an amazing character development, boot camp, roller coaster! Physical, emotional, spiritual, mental, everything! You experience life and then put on top of that a physical illness- goodness gracious! There is definitely some pressure going on that coal to reveal the diamond that’s there underneath.

A little bit of this roller coaster I’m experiencing has to do with faith and trust. Faith and trust in yourself that you will conquer whatever you’re going through. And also faith and trust in the experts that you’re relying on to help heal you, with whatever methods or treatments they give you.

And then there’s patience. Pretty self explanatory.

And love and happiness and all of the positive, great emotions that there are. The more that you feel these for yourself, and the more you stay positive, the more life opens up and the better life can be. And when you have a physical illness like this I’m finding it’s so important to stay positive and to see the silver lining and to see the light at the end of the tunnel and focus on that. That’s really what’s gotten me through to where I am today. I’ve gone through a lot. I’ve been in and out of the hospital and feeling very sick for the majority of a year and a half. My journey is about two years long right now and I just thank God that I have the energy that I have now and I’m at the health level I’m at now.

I consider having cancer, conquering it, as a blessing. I know that I will conquer it because I’m stronger than it. Because I’m smarter than it. I know that I have so many people to impact and lives, people to touch. So I know I’m not going anywhere for a long time.

I want to know in the comments: What’s one thing you’re going through in your life, and also one thing you’re learning from it, whether it’s positive or negative. Focus on that silver lining.

Thanks for reading, stay tuned, I love you all, and let’s connect on KacieMay.com and see how we can collaborate.

P.S. Oh, and f.y.i., a few days before I wrote this and shot the video, I had a breakdown. I cried. I called loved ones. I want to be healthier already. I know I’ll get there. I let it all out, emotions, talking, writing, as I do habitually, then I told myself it will be ok. And I believe myself. I’m human. I fall, then I pick myself back up, get my game face on, and conquer!

Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful...

...And You Will Become the Diamond that You Are.

A handful of years ago and up until a few years ago, I lost some of my essence, some of my self love and confidence. I chose to go to college and study. I was away from my loves, my family, and in a strange place with a bunch of people I didn’t know, focusing on something I didn’t know how I wanted to apply to my life. Maybe this is typical- college age being kind of like a second puberty- where you’re figuring yourself and your life out.

So what was the trigger? What changed to make me start to seek my self actualization? I don’t remember, but I do remember wanting to spend some time doing one of the things that made me smile: playing with clothes. So I moved to Los Angeles from San Francisco and suddenly it was like I was given permission to cherish and show off my physical looks (maybe a little too much at times, out of proportion with letting our insides shine too; our personality and humanity, for example). I was also in a world where there are a TON of people playing with clothes. The ones I’m referring to in particular are known as Fashion Stylists.

So now I gave myself permission to indulge and show off my physical self more than I had in the previous few years, as well as play with clothes as a Stylist to see how I liked it.

I was MUCH happier.

But then I found out I didn’t like the way I was playing with clothes, or the values of the people in this industry (generally speaking), and I was broke.

The passionate, fashion and style skilled creative person I was being was losing some faith and self love. I wanted to really genuinely make a difference in people’s lives (not just helping them dress up for a show or a shoot), I wanted to be more connected with the friends I chose, and I wanted to be closer with my family.  I wanted to make more money, I wanted to make my own hours, and I also got this idea that I wanted to become wealthy. To not just trade my time for money for decades, but to become wealthy meaning I choose when I want to work because everything’s already paid for at the beginning of every month. I didn’t want to be STILL hustling in my 50’s like my Mom is. Btw, she soon won’t be because I’m going to relieve her.

So all of these desires existed, and at this time I felt powerless. Then I got cancer and was brought home again to my family, and then I knew everything would be ok. Conquering cancer has given me lots of time to probe myself, read great books and listen to great audios, develop myself, become more connected, and find out how to live the way I desire: making a genuine difference in people’s lives. See KacieMay.com for my mission statement. With the journey I’m on I now feel grateful, joyful, and am becoming fulfilled.

I hope this blog has touched you in some way, and I’m here to help you love yourself and feel beautiful, and get paid what you’re worth. Also if you like this blog, share it with your friends and follow me.

Lots of love,

Kacie

And P.S. In the comments below, share with us what makes you love yourself and feel beautiful, and if it applies also share a time when you lacked self love or didn't feel beautiful, and what you did or who you became to turn it all around.

Recognizing Other Women’s Beauty

I used to think that it was a competition- who was the most beautiful? Or like the witch in Sleeping Beauty said, “Who is the fairest of them all?” If you come from a perspective of competition, that could mean that there is only so much to go around, and that there’s only one winner, only one most beautiful woman. This could be a fear based way of thinking. What I’m learning is that you can only love others as much as you love yourself. There were times when I thought, “You’re so beautiful” when meeting physically beautiful or spiritually beautiful women. I realized I wasn’t telling them, I was just thinking it. I used to be afraid to speak on it. I changed and decided to tell them. I noticed that once I did, they lit up! And so did I.

Marianne Williamson writes, “As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Maybe this enlightening was triggered by a spa event I attended sometime in 2010. Two women were presenting. One of the women came to the stage and while she was speaking, looked directly at me in the 2nd row and said “You are so beautiful”, in  a high pitched, enthusiastic and fascinated tone. Maybe it was how I made up my face that day, or what I was wearing, or maybe it was my spirit that she recognized. Whatever it was, when she said that I smiled and maybe blushed too, and she smiled back. This was a woman who loved herself a lot. She was also living a life she consciously chose and designed. I know this because it’s what she told us. She also had a huge, emanating, positive energy that I hadn’t seen too often up until this point in my life, so I figured she was living life in a way that was different than most. She seemed to be on a different wavelength than the majority of people in America (as of the day I’m writing this in November 2013).

Last week I walked into a Pete’s Coffee in the Sacramento area. This girl came around the corner. My aura automatically lifted and my eyes lit up, stunned by her presence. I said without thinking: “You hair is so beautiful!” Vivid, red, small ringlets cascaded halfway down her back. I recognized her beauty and spoke on it. She smiled and blushed, a similar reaction I had a few years earlier. A quiet one, she rang me up at the cashwrap. What’s interesting is that a few hours later as I was leaving the shop when they were closing, one of her coworkers said, “See you tomorrow!” with a lot of warmth and certainty, in a similar voice I complimented her coworker with earlier. This is the first time I’d ever set foot in this Pete’s, and I had conversed only about 10 words with this coworker a few minutes earlier. I’m wondering what caused her to say that. It was as if she read my mind. I was thinking to come back tomorrow, and that I liked the calm atmosphere and the kind girls working there. I wonder if the redhead told her of my compliment and she wanted my energy there again with them.

There is so much beauty in the world. I’m talking about more than physical beauty. Someone’s personality, their warmth, kindness, generosity, consideration, families, communities, sceneries, landscapes, art, music, houses, fashion...there’s so much! What we put out into the world, we also get back, so by acknowledging the beauty around us, we are acknowledging our own beauty at the same time. When we do this we’re also more at peace with ourselves and we open the doors to more abundance in our lives. It’s about paying it forward, too. You pay a compliment to someone, and because you did, they do the same and pay a compliment to another person, and it’s a never ending chain of compliments! So let’s recognize women’s- and all kinds of other beauty- around us for a better, more beautiful, more abundant life!

If you like what you’ve read so far, stay tuned and check out my upcoming book: 8 Values of a Cancer Conquering Personal Stylist: How to Love Yourself and Feel Beautiful to be released in January 2014!

In the comments below, tell us about the best compliment you’ve ever had from another woman. Let’s have some extra lady love time and give some shout outs!

Thanks for reading and let’s connect at KacieMay.com

Meet Me: How I'm Contributing

Hey hey!

If you don’t know me yet, I go by Kacie May,

that’s K-A-C-I-E.

M-A-why? Because I GOTTA!

Yep, I’m a goofball….

I am also a light sharer and a visionary.

I help women feel beautiful in what they wear,

give amazing skin with dead sea products at a great value,

and I help people earn what they’re worth and live their dream lives.

I’ve been on a journey the past few years- spiritual, emotional, mental, physical-

conquering cancer- lymphoma that is- and

I’m writing a book called 8 Values of a Cancer Conquering Personal Stylist: How to Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful.

I’m writing this book to share my story and knowledge with the world, to be vulnerable in a huge way, and to give value to people, especially women. My mission with it is to spread messages of living light, self love, and feeling beautiful in what you wear. People all over the world will purchase a copy of this book, and I’ll be doing speaking engagements partly because of it, too.

I’m going to share with you the 8 unofficial titles right now, and look for videos and or blog posts about these in the near future.

1. Live with empathy, humanity & vulnerability
2. Value your voice
3. Own who you physically are by looking within
4. Address yourself to best dress yourself
5. Love & dress your current physical self
6. Be open to things you might initially reject
7. Find the silver lining & focus on it
8. Consistently develop yourself

Another way I help women feel beautiful is in person

where we work with your personality, lifestyle, & body type

the clothes you have now

and/or some new ones.

I’m on a mission to spread these ideas and values and more, and I’m also helping to launch a revolution called Seacret, where we’re at the beginning of creating a wealthy community in several countries already and just getting started...

I’m learning that we’re here living to connect.

To share experiences and stories.

To lift each other up and pay it forward.

When you solve enough people’s problems, guess what? Yours are solved. Imagine living in a reality where this happens.

Share in the comments below your thoughts, one thing you love about yourself, and/or how you're contributing.

If you like this blog, "like" it, leave a comment, and share it with your friends. And check out http://KacieMay.com for more of the scoop to creating a you that you love!

Love you all and stay tuned…