KMM #2: Why Should I Dress My Best?

Hey hey! I’m Kacie May. We’re talking about why we should always dress our best. So why should we? Well there’s a couple of reasons.

Watch me speak on it.

First of all how we look and how we feel are connected.

We live in a visual society, so our physical appearance our grooming and our hygiene- this is our visual business card.

Also we’re judged on these things, people make an assessment about us, within the first handful of seconds of meeting us just on these things alone!

And when I say grooming and hygiene I’m talking about mean how we keep our hair, the health and appearance of our skin with the skincare we use, as well as our teeth, things like this.
In order to have integrity with who we are, we’ve got to align who we are on the inside with who we are on the outside. What we wear, our physical appearance, is not everything about us.

Our insides that’s the rest of who we are.

It’s what we have here (in our heads) and what we have in here (in our hearts).

Think about it:

When was the last time you dressed up?

Were you going out on a hot date?

Maybe you were going out with the girls.

Or maybe you were going to a big event.

I want you to think about how you felt during those few hours or during that day.

Probably hot and confident, right?

You were lovin yourself and FEELIN beautiful! (LYFB!)

Well guess what ladies, we’re supposed to feel this way every single day.

And if you’re not feeling this, it’s about time to start as of yesterday!

Some people ask me: Is it vain or superficial to take care of our physical self, to dress our best and to take care of our hygiene and our appearance of our skin and our hair?

No. I tell them no, of course not.

I actually had a stigma about this; I kind of felt that way before too but what I found out is that we’re really taking care of ourselves.

And when we take care of ourselves we feel great.

When we feel great we’re attracting great things and can also better take care of others so it’s a win-win all around.

So in conclusion ladies and gentleman, take care of your physical assets. Love yourself and feel beautiful, take advantage of those physical assets you have and yes I’m talking to you!

Dress for your body type, lifestyle, and personality and always Love Yourself and Feel Beautiful.

As always, thank you for reading, stay tuned, and let’s connect at KacieMay.com!

KMM #1: Be Unstoppable.

Hey hey, I’m Kacie May.

I’ve heard from some of my mentors to sharing our struggles as well as our triumphs.

So here’s some of my struggles.
Watch me talk about it instead if you like.

I’m sitting here in my bed which I’ve been at more than the majority of the day because

some synthetics a couple days ago that are temporarily attempting to take the life force from me.

And here I am making a video and sharing with everyone, and connecting on social media and talking to people over phone.

It’s not about what you can’t do,

Focus on what you CAN do.

Oh, and a note on how to treat people who might be struggling in any particular area of their life.

Don’t say “oh you poor thing” or feel sorry for them. It’s dis-empowering. It doesn’t do any good.

Instead empathize with them. Be in that moment, in that place.  
Maybe offer some solutions,

or at least great energy.

Ask them what they’re learning.

In the time I’m feeling healthy enough-

which is becoming more often lately because of what I’m taking and how I’m treating myself,

I’m building relationships- new ones, existing ones, making them better.

I’m creating and sharing content on social media,

creating a new website,

and I’m helping to FREE people, working on something huge.

And all from my bed today.

So moral of the story is:

Focus on what you can do, not what you can’t do.

And be unstoppable.

I am unstoppable and you can be, too.

Thanks for reading, stay tuned, and let’s connect at KacieMay.com.

Life Mentors and Coaches i.e. Titanic’s Jack & Rose

Titanic.

Jack saves Rose.

“In every way that a person can be saved”

She said she felt like she was

“Screaming at the top of her lungs and no one even bothers to look up”

She was unhappy with her life

with her relationships

her mom and fiance

living a life with not much happiness or joy.

Then Jack came in and ignited her spirit.

Realize that there are people who can help you become better if you recognize who they are and let them. These are your life mentors and coaches.

Jack saw her, was intrigued, almost immediately he started caring about her,

and it became: “You jump I jump”.

He literally helped her save her own life, and he was committed to interacting with her.

He helped her live a lighter and freer life, having more fun, dancing, riding roller coasters and horses.

His influence helped her realize she can make her own choices

instead of feeling obligated to make choices based on what another person said or what another person thinks she should do or be.

Jack’s commitment to Rose’s development

I think this is a big reason why this movie is such a success.

We all want this.

People who care about us, who bring out a better person in us, whoever they are

male, female, a lover, friend, relative, coach, mentor.

It’s about assisting in a person’s development and self actualization.

And you don’t need anyone to show you or tell you you can or cannot do something

or be or become something or someone.
Because you already got it in the bag, if you believe you do.
Henry Ford said, "If you believe you can or can't, either way you're right."

So all you really need is yourself making decisions and choices on your own behalf,

choosing what you want and living how you want to live.
And these people caring about us, helping us develop...this is a beautiful thing, too.

Rose became this person.

I am becoming this person

partly thanks to people in my life influencing me for the better, directly and indirectly.

Pay attention to who makes you better

and who you’re becoming as a result of their influence.

If you need someone like this maybe I can be this person for you.

Or maybe I know a person or people or even a beautiful, loving community who would be perfect for you.

Make it a great, loving, wonderful, luscious, abundant, prosperous, successful life

that you create,

not one that you feel obligated to.

In the comments below, tell us 3 things:

Something you’d like to be better at,

Something you’re proud of yourself for,

and the name of the person or people who are helping/helped make that a reality for you.

Thanks for reading, stay tuned, and let’s connect on KacieMay.com

I Am Not My Hair: Cancer Conquering Confidence

Today I’m talking about “I am not my hair” from my book 8 Values of a Cancer Conquering Personal Stylist: How to Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful.

Watch me talk about it in video here.

The reason I want to share with you about I am not my hair right now is because I just started losing my hair again. I was growing it back for a year, it was coming back, and it was almost looking normal.  And now it’s getting thin again. It’s because I’m taking a synthetic drug. I don’t think anything natural would make a person’s hair fall out.

What I’m discovering is we’re not defined by our hair. It’s just part of our physical being. What defines us really is what’s inside. What’s inside our hearts, what’s inside our heads, what our values are.

It’s part of our packaging though, of course, our physical self. It’s our visual business card, part of our marketing. I just heard recently that people judge the cover of a book before they read what’s inside. And this is true because we live in a visual society. It’s important to align who you are on the outside with who you are on the inside by dressing for your body type, lifestyle, and personality.

Bottom line is a person’s character is more important than their visual physical self. India.Arie, one of my fave musicians even made a song about it.

I don’t share with you my story for pity or for sympathy. I share my story to share the truth so you know what’s going on and maybe you can relate with me. Maybe you’re going through something similar, maybe something more intense. Maybe just hearing my story is impacting you or will impact you for the better.

I love my hair no matter what length it is. And if I lose it all again, if I have to shave it off again because I’m losing so much so fast, then so be it. I’ll just put my headscarves on again or I’ll just rock a bald head. It’s just hair. It will grow back. And if it doesn’t, then it’s ok. It’s just hair.

Another thing I want to share with you. I read this in the book Wisdom to Wellness by Maureen Minnehan Jones: People who have physical illnesses, there’s a soul discovery attached to it. It’s your soul giving your body a signal, a message. The one that’s attached to cancer is related to judgement. This is a broad term and can apply to many things or aspects of a person’s life. It’s something I’m experiencing and going through.

People who are conquering these mothers of physical illnesses...it’s an amazing character development, boot camp, roller coaster! Physical, emotional, spiritual, mental, everything! You experience life and then put on top of that a physical illness- goodness gracious! There is definitely some pressure going on that coal to reveal the diamond that’s there underneath.

A little bit of this roller coaster I’m experiencing has to do with faith and trust. Faith and trust in yourself that you will conquer whatever you’re going through. And also faith and trust in the experts that you’re relying on to help heal you, with whatever methods or treatments they give you.

And then there’s patience. Pretty self explanatory.

And love and happiness and all of the positive, great emotions that there are. The more that you feel these for yourself, and the more you stay positive, the more life opens up and the better life can be. And when you have a physical illness like this I’m finding it’s so important to stay positive and to see the silver lining and to see the light at the end of the tunnel and focus on that. That’s really what’s gotten me through to where I am today. I’ve gone through a lot. I’ve been in and out of the hospital and feeling very sick for the majority of a year and a half. My journey is about two years long right now and I just thank God that I have the energy that I have now and I’m at the health level I’m at now.

I consider having cancer, conquering it, as a blessing. I know that I will conquer it because I’m stronger than it. Because I’m smarter than it. I know that I have so many people to impact and lives, people to touch. So I know I’m not going anywhere for a long time.

I want to know in the comments: What’s one thing you’re going through in your life, and also one thing you’re learning from it, whether it’s positive or negative. Focus on that silver lining.

Thanks for reading, stay tuned, I love you all, and let’s connect on KacieMay.com and see how we can collaborate.

P.S. Oh, and f.y.i., a few days before I wrote this and shot the video, I had a breakdown. I cried. I called loved ones. I want to be healthier already. I know I’ll get there. I let it all out, emotions, talking, writing, as I do habitually, then I told myself it will be ok. And I believe myself. I’m human. I fall, then I pick myself back up, get my game face on, and conquer!