Today I’m talking about “I am not my hair” from my book 8 Values of a Cancer Conquering Personal Stylist: How to Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful.
Watch me talk about it in video here.
The reason I want to share with you about I am not my hair right now is because I just started losing my hair again. I was growing it back for a year, it was coming back, and it was almost looking normal. And now it’s getting thin again. It’s because I’m taking a synthetic drug. I don’t think anything natural would make a person’s hair fall out.
What I’m discovering is we’re not defined by our hair. It’s just part of our physical being. What defines us really is what’s inside. What’s inside our hearts, what’s inside our heads, what our values are.
It’s part of our packaging though, of course, our physical self. It’s our visual business card, part of our marketing. I just heard recently that people judge the cover of a book before they read what’s inside. And this is true because we live in a visual society. It’s important to align who you are on the outside with who you are on the inside by dressing for your body type, lifestyle, and personality.
Bottom line is a person’s character is more important than their visual physical self. India.Arie, one of my fave musicians even made a song about it.
I don’t share with you my story for pity or for sympathy. I share my story to share the truth so you know what’s going on and maybe you can relate with me. Maybe you’re going through something similar, maybe something more intense. Maybe just hearing my story is impacting you or will impact you for the better.
I love my hair no matter what length it is. And if I lose it all again, if I have to shave it off again because I’m losing so much so fast, then so be it. I’ll just put my headscarves on again or I’ll just rock a bald head. It’s just hair. It will grow back. And if it doesn’t, then it’s ok. It’s just hair.
Another thing I want to share with you. I read this in the book Wisdom to Wellness by Maureen Minnehan Jones: People who have physical illnesses, there’s a soul discovery attached to it. It’s your soul giving your body a signal, a message. The one that’s attached to cancer is related to judgement. This is a broad term and can apply to many things or aspects of a person’s life. It’s something I’m experiencing and going through.
People who are conquering these mothers of physical illnesses...it’s an amazing character development, boot camp, roller coaster! Physical, emotional, spiritual, mental, everything! You experience life and then put on top of that a physical illness- goodness gracious! There is definitely some pressure going on that coal to reveal the diamond that’s there underneath.
A little bit of this roller coaster I’m experiencing has to do with faith and trust. Faith and trust in yourself that you will conquer whatever you’re going through. And also faith and trust in the experts that you’re relying on to help heal you, with whatever methods or treatments they give you.
And then there’s patience. Pretty self explanatory.
And love and happiness and all of the positive, great emotions that there are. The more that you feel these for yourself, and the more you stay positive, the more life opens up and the better life can be. And when you have a physical illness like this I’m finding it’s so important to stay positive and to see the silver lining and to see the light at the end of the tunnel and focus on that. That’s really what’s gotten me through to where I am today. I’ve gone through a lot. I’ve been in and out of the hospital and feeling very sick for the majority of a year and a half. My journey is about two years long right now and I just thank God that I have the energy that I have now and I’m at the health level I’m at now.
I consider having cancer, conquering it, as a blessing. I know that I will conquer it because I’m stronger than it. Because I’m smarter than it. I know that I have so many people to impact and lives, people to touch. So I know I’m not going anywhere for a long time.
I want to know in the comments: What’s one thing you’re going through in your life, and also one thing you’re learning from it, whether it’s positive or negative. Focus on that silver lining.
Thanks for reading, stay tuned, I love you all, and let’s connect on KacieMay.com and see how we can collaborate.
P.S. Oh, and f.y.i., a few days before I wrote this and shot the video, I had a breakdown. I cried. I called loved ones. I want to be healthier already. I know I’ll get there. I let it all out, emotions, talking, writing, as I do habitually, then I told myself it will be ok. And I believe myself. I’m human. I fall, then I pick myself back up, get my game face on, and conquer!
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