KMM #4: How to Lift Your Mood!

Hey Hey! I’m Kacie May. Today we’re talking about mood lifters.

Are you feeling crummy?

Do you feel listless?

Do you poop out at parties?

Hopefully not :/

But guess what?!

Find something that puts you in a great mood!

We can change our mood?

OH yes we can!

We are in control of our emotions.

You want to feel great as often as possible because when you feel great you attract great things.

Like attracts like.

One mood lifter I LOVE is music.

I dare you. Find that one song, that one jam that makes you feel like JAMMIN!

And I dare you: don’t even dance. Don’t move a muscle. Just sit there. Don’t even smile.

Just sit there like this (straight face).

Do it right NOW!

(You’re trying to keep a straight face, then BAM! You perk up!)

We! Are! Fa-mi-ly! I got all my sisters and me! We! Are! Fa-mi-ly! Get up everybody and SING!

We! Are! Fa-mi-ly!

You’re WELCOME! ;)

As always, thank you for reading, stay tuned, Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful, and let’s connect at KacieMay.com.

KMM #3: My Awakening

Hi everyone! I'm Kacie May.

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It was 2011. I was living in L.A. pursuing fashion styling and a business venture.

I felt lost and helpless as I was struggling to find my niche, support myself, as well as make genuine friends. I also missed my family who lives all over California. I wasn't taking very good care of myself.

I started getting symptoms like the flu and asthma, and I didn’t know what was going on.  I took herbs from my Dad who's an Herbalist, and they helped at first but then stopped working and my symptoms got worse. Then I lost my appetite and started losing weight, and lost energy and strength.

I drove out to my Dad's house in Rancho Cucamonga to work on my car, and I was so physically weak I couldn't turn the crank to lift the tire. He put me to bed and wouldn't let me go back to my apartment in LA. Then he called my Mom, an RN a few days later and requested her help.

One of my brothers picked me up and drove me to my Mom's house in the Sacramento area, and it was Thanksgiving. And by the way I had nothing but the clothes on my back and my purse with me. I slept during a lot of the drive, as well as through Thanksgiving. Then I got an x-ray and found out my left lung was collapsed and that I had millimeters of trachea space left to breathe. I was near dying. I was scared, but I knew I wasn't going to die then. I knew because I believed I was in the right hands, some of those being my Mom’s.

I chose to put my life in other people's hands as I got on breathing treatments and an IV, and was transported in an ambulance to a different hospital where I stayed for 8 days and had chemotherapy and many other drugs. My whole life was turned upside down. I couldn't go back to my apartment, and thanks to my family they packed my things and put it all in storage.

For about 2 years I lived with my Mom. She was my caretaker and I took both drugs and natural treatments, and as of the day I write this I am still receiving treatments. My Mom fed me, helped me sit up in bed, bathe and walk at my worst times. My Mom is my angel.

The great news is that I consider my diagnosis and conquering Hodgkin's Lymphoma to be a blessing and my awakening. I dove into personal development more so than before, asking questions like: What kind of a person was I being for this to happen, and what is a healthier way to be? I found out that when we love ourselves, our insides reflect that.

My motto is Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful, LYFB, and it's part of the title of my upcoming eBook. It’s also hash tagged on social media. Join us and comment, follow, as well as hash tag your own media that’s LYFB!

I found out that we're all connected and here to lift each other up, to give each other a hand up, and help each other. This ongoing, morphing life experience is teaching me that I am a force to be reckoned with who's got to lead by example and pay it forward. It's my mission. Helping others to love themselves too and become amazing leaders- I feel this is my purpose. Also to live lives fully expressed. I can identify with this too, because for years I had severely repressed myself. And I am still uncovering who I truly am!

What causes repression? Fear. What I found out is that fear is false. False Evidence Appearing Real. It's a mask. An illusion. I found out that we can be whoever we want to be and do whatever we want to do. And the sooner we figure out what this means to us, the sooner we can journey this path.

So I serve as a role model for strength, leadership, empathy, courage, self love, body love, valuing your voice and vision, and probably a few other categories as well. The experience forced me to open up and connect with people more, because almost everyone I converse asks me about it as if I've come back from a war. And I have.  I'm winning because I turned it into a peace treaty.

They're curious about the experience, inspired and enlightened, so I took that as my queue to grow quicker into the leader I already know I am deep at my soul's core. The experience liberates and humbles me, and of course as Marianne Williamson says: "As we are liberated from our own fears, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same."

KMM #2: Why Should I Dress My Best?

Hey hey! I’m Kacie May. We’re talking about why we should always dress our best. So why should we? Well there’s a couple of reasons.

Watch me speak on it.

First of all how we look and how we feel are connected.

We live in a visual society, so our physical appearance our grooming and our hygiene- this is our visual business card.

Also we’re judged on these things, people make an assessment about us, within the first handful of seconds of meeting us just on these things alone!

And when I say grooming and hygiene I’m talking about mean how we keep our hair, the health and appearance of our skin with the skincare we use, as well as our teeth, things like this.
In order to have integrity with who we are, we’ve got to align who we are on the inside with who we are on the outside. What we wear, our physical appearance, is not everything about us.

Our insides that’s the rest of who we are.

It’s what we have here (in our heads) and what we have in here (in our hearts).

Think about it:

When was the last time you dressed up?

Were you going out on a hot date?

Maybe you were going out with the girls.

Or maybe you were going to a big event.

I want you to think about how you felt during those few hours or during that day.

Probably hot and confident, right?

You were lovin yourself and FEELIN beautiful! (LYFB!)

Well guess what ladies, we’re supposed to feel this way every single day.

And if you’re not feeling this, it’s about time to start as of yesterday!

Some people ask me: Is it vain or superficial to take care of our physical self, to dress our best and to take care of our hygiene and our appearance of our skin and our hair?

No. I tell them no, of course not.

I actually had a stigma about this; I kind of felt that way before too but what I found out is that we’re really taking care of ourselves.

And when we take care of ourselves we feel great.

When we feel great we’re attracting great things and can also better take care of others so it’s a win-win all around.

So in conclusion ladies and gentleman, take care of your physical assets. Love yourself and feel beautiful, take advantage of those physical assets you have and yes I’m talking to you!

Dress for your body type, lifestyle, and personality and always Love Yourself and Feel Beautiful.

As always, thank you for reading, stay tuned, and let’s connect at KacieMay.com!

KMM #1: Be Unstoppable.

Hey hey, I’m Kacie May.

I’ve heard from some of my mentors to sharing our struggles as well as our triumphs.

So here’s some of my struggles.
Watch me talk about it instead if you like.

I’m sitting here in my bed which I’ve been at more than the majority of the day because

some synthetics a couple days ago that are temporarily attempting to take the life force from me.

And here I am making a video and sharing with everyone, and connecting on social media and talking to people over phone.

It’s not about what you can’t do,

Focus on what you CAN do.

Oh, and a note on how to treat people who might be struggling in any particular area of their life.

Don’t say “oh you poor thing” or feel sorry for them. It’s dis-empowering. It doesn’t do any good.

Instead empathize with them. Be in that moment, in that place.  
Maybe offer some solutions,

or at least great energy.

Ask them what they’re learning.

In the time I’m feeling healthy enough-

which is becoming more often lately because of what I’m taking and how I’m treating myself,

I’m building relationships- new ones, existing ones, making them better.

I’m creating and sharing content on social media,

creating a new website,

and I’m helping to FREE people, working on something huge.

And all from my bed today.

So moral of the story is:

Focus on what you can do, not what you can’t do.

And be unstoppable.

I am unstoppable and you can be, too.

Thanks for reading, stay tuned, and let’s connect at KacieMay.com.

Introducing Kacie May's Minutes

Hey hey! Welcome everyone. I’m Kacie May.

If we don’t know each other very well yet or if we do, doesn’t matter who you are, that’s perfect. Let’s get to know each other better.

The reason for this blog is to announce a video & blog series called Kacie May’s Minutes.

And the reason it’s called Kacie May’s Minutes is because each entry & video is only a few minutes long.

You’re welcome, people with A.D.D.! Squirrel!

Anyways, I’ll be talking about 3 topics:

Number 1: Personal Development related topics.

Number 2: Personal Styling related topics: How to Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful.

Number 3: The diary of my cancer journey: Hodgkin’s Lymphoma.

So come get some a nugget or two, get some value, come leave a comment, interact, and help build these beautiful communities that we’re building: How to Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful - LYFB- as well as Seacret, and then be on your way!

So as always: thank you for reading, stay tuned, and let’s connect at KacieMay.com.

Life Mentors and Coaches i.e. Titanic’s Jack & Rose

Titanic.

Jack saves Rose.

“In every way that a person can be saved”

She said she felt like she was

“Screaming at the top of her lungs and no one even bothers to look up”

She was unhappy with her life

with her relationships

her mom and fiance

living a life with not much happiness or joy.

Then Jack came in and ignited her spirit.

Realize that there are people who can help you become better if you recognize who they are and let them. These are your life mentors and coaches.

Jack saw her, was intrigued, almost immediately he started caring about her,

and it became: “You jump I jump”.

He literally helped her save her own life, and he was committed to interacting with her.

He helped her live a lighter and freer life, having more fun, dancing, riding roller coasters and horses.

His influence helped her realize she can make her own choices

instead of feeling obligated to make choices based on what another person said or what another person thinks she should do or be.

Jack’s commitment to Rose’s development

I think this is a big reason why this movie is such a success.

We all want this.

People who care about us, who bring out a better person in us, whoever they are

male, female, a lover, friend, relative, coach, mentor.

It’s about assisting in a person’s development and self actualization.

And you don’t need anyone to show you or tell you you can or cannot do something

or be or become something or someone.
Because you already got it in the bag, if you believe you do.
Henry Ford said, "If you believe you can or can't, either way you're right."

So all you really need is yourself making decisions and choices on your own behalf,

choosing what you want and living how you want to live.
And these people caring about us, helping us develop...this is a beautiful thing, too.

Rose became this person.

I am becoming this person

partly thanks to people in my life influencing me for the better, directly and indirectly.

Pay attention to who makes you better

and who you’re becoming as a result of their influence.

If you need someone like this maybe I can be this person for you.

Or maybe I know a person or people or even a beautiful, loving community who would be perfect for you.

Make it a great, loving, wonderful, luscious, abundant, prosperous, successful life

that you create,

not one that you feel obligated to.

In the comments below, tell us 3 things:

Something you’d like to be better at,

Something you’re proud of yourself for,

and the name of the person or people who are helping/helped make that a reality for you.

Thanks for reading, stay tuned, and let’s connect on KacieMay.com

I Am Not My Hair: Cancer Conquering Confidence

Today I’m talking about “I am not my hair” from my book 8 Values of a Cancer Conquering Personal Stylist: How to Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful.

Watch me talk about it in video here.

The reason I want to share with you about I am not my hair right now is because I just started losing my hair again. I was growing it back for a year, it was coming back, and it was almost looking normal.  And now it’s getting thin again. It’s because I’m taking a synthetic drug. I don’t think anything natural would make a person’s hair fall out.

What I’m discovering is we’re not defined by our hair. It’s just part of our physical being. What defines us really is what’s inside. What’s inside our hearts, what’s inside our heads, what our values are.

It’s part of our packaging though, of course, our physical self. It’s our visual business card, part of our marketing. I just heard recently that people judge the cover of a book before they read what’s inside. And this is true because we live in a visual society. It’s important to align who you are on the outside with who you are on the inside by dressing for your body type, lifestyle, and personality.

Bottom line is a person’s character is more important than their visual physical self. India.Arie, one of my fave musicians even made a song about it.

I don’t share with you my story for pity or for sympathy. I share my story to share the truth so you know what’s going on and maybe you can relate with me. Maybe you’re going through something similar, maybe something more intense. Maybe just hearing my story is impacting you or will impact you for the better.

I love my hair no matter what length it is. And if I lose it all again, if I have to shave it off again because I’m losing so much so fast, then so be it. I’ll just put my headscarves on again or I’ll just rock a bald head. It’s just hair. It will grow back. And if it doesn’t, then it’s ok. It’s just hair.

Another thing I want to share with you. I read this in the book Wisdom to Wellness by Maureen Minnehan Jones: People who have physical illnesses, there’s a soul discovery attached to it. It’s your soul giving your body a signal, a message. The one that’s attached to cancer is related to judgement. This is a broad term and can apply to many things or aspects of a person’s life. It’s something I’m experiencing and going through.

People who are conquering these mothers of physical illnesses...it’s an amazing character development, boot camp, roller coaster! Physical, emotional, spiritual, mental, everything! You experience life and then put on top of that a physical illness- goodness gracious! There is definitely some pressure going on that coal to reveal the diamond that’s there underneath.

A little bit of this roller coaster I’m experiencing has to do with faith and trust. Faith and trust in yourself that you will conquer whatever you’re going through. And also faith and trust in the experts that you’re relying on to help heal you, with whatever methods or treatments they give you.

And then there’s patience. Pretty self explanatory.

And love and happiness and all of the positive, great emotions that there are. The more that you feel these for yourself, and the more you stay positive, the more life opens up and the better life can be. And when you have a physical illness like this I’m finding it’s so important to stay positive and to see the silver lining and to see the light at the end of the tunnel and focus on that. That’s really what’s gotten me through to where I am today. I’ve gone through a lot. I’ve been in and out of the hospital and feeling very sick for the majority of a year and a half. My journey is about two years long right now and I just thank God that I have the energy that I have now and I’m at the health level I’m at now.

I consider having cancer, conquering it, as a blessing. I know that I will conquer it because I’m stronger than it. Because I’m smarter than it. I know that I have so many people to impact and lives, people to touch. So I know I’m not going anywhere for a long time.

I want to know in the comments: What’s one thing you’re going through in your life, and also one thing you’re learning from it, whether it’s positive or negative. Focus on that silver lining.

Thanks for reading, stay tuned, I love you all, and let’s connect on KacieMay.com and see how we can collaborate.

P.S. Oh, and f.y.i., a few days before I wrote this and shot the video, I had a breakdown. I cried. I called loved ones. I want to be healthier already. I know I’ll get there. I let it all out, emotions, talking, writing, as I do habitually, then I told myself it will be ok. And I believe myself. I’m human. I fall, then I pick myself back up, get my game face on, and conquer!

Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful...

...And You Will Become the Diamond that You Are.

A handful of years ago and up until a few years ago, I lost some of my essence, some of my self love and confidence. I chose to go to college and study. I was away from my loves, my family, and in a strange place with a bunch of people I didn’t know, focusing on something I didn’t know how I wanted to apply to my life. Maybe this is typical- college age being kind of like a second puberty- where you’re figuring yourself and your life out.

So what was the trigger? What changed to make me start to seek my self actualization? I don’t remember, but I do remember wanting to spend some time doing one of the things that made me smile: playing with clothes. So I moved to Los Angeles from San Francisco and suddenly it was like I was given permission to cherish and show off my physical looks (maybe a little too much at times, out of proportion with letting our insides shine too; our personality and humanity, for example). I was also in a world where there are a TON of people playing with clothes. The ones I’m referring to in particular are known as Fashion Stylists.

So now I gave myself permission to indulge and show off my physical self more than I had in the previous few years, as well as play with clothes as a Stylist to see how I liked it.

I was MUCH happier.

But then I found out I didn’t like the way I was playing with clothes, or the values of the people in this industry (generally speaking), and I was broke.

The passionate, fashion and style skilled creative person I was being was losing some faith and self love. I wanted to really genuinely make a difference in people’s lives (not just helping them dress up for a show or a shoot), I wanted to be more connected with the friends I chose, and I wanted to be closer with my family.  I wanted to make more money, I wanted to make my own hours, and I also got this idea that I wanted to become wealthy. To not just trade my time for money for decades, but to become wealthy meaning I choose when I want to work because everything’s already paid for at the beginning of every month. I didn’t want to be STILL hustling in my 50’s like my Mom is. Btw, she soon won’t be because I’m going to relieve her.

So all of these desires existed, and at this time I felt powerless. Then I got cancer and was brought home again to my family, and then I knew everything would be ok. Conquering cancer has given me lots of time to probe myself, read great books and listen to great audios, develop myself, become more connected, and find out how to live the way I desire: making a genuine difference in people’s lives. See KacieMay.com for my mission statement. With the journey I’m on I now feel grateful, joyful, and am becoming fulfilled.

I hope this blog has touched you in some way, and I’m here to help you love yourself and feel beautiful, and get paid what you’re worth. Also if you like this blog, share it with your friends and follow me.

Lots of love,

Kacie

And P.S. In the comments below, share with us what makes you love yourself and feel beautiful, and if it applies also share a time when you lacked self love or didn't feel beautiful, and what you did or who you became to turn it all around.