I used to think that it was a competition- who was the most beautiful? Or like the witch in Sleeping Beauty said, “Who is the fairest of them all?” If you come from a perspective of competition, that could mean that there is only so much to go around, and that there’s only one winner, only one most beautiful woman. This could be a fear based way of thinking. What I’m learning is that you can only love others as much as you love yourself. There were times when I thought, “You’re so beautiful” when meeting physically beautiful or spiritually beautiful women. I realized I wasn’t telling them, I was just thinking it. I used to be afraid to speak on it. I changed and decided to tell them. I noticed that once I did, they lit up! And so did I.
Marianne Williamson writes, “As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Maybe this enlightening was triggered by a spa event I attended sometime in 2010. Two women were presenting. One of the women came to the stage and while she was speaking, looked directly at me in the 2nd row and said “You are so beautiful”, in a high pitched, enthusiastic and fascinated tone. Maybe it was how I made up my face that day, or what I was wearing, or maybe it was my spirit that she recognized. Whatever it was, when she said that I smiled and maybe blushed too, and she smiled back. This was a woman who loved herself a lot. She was also living a life she consciously chose and designed. I know this because it’s what she told us. She also had a huge, emanating, positive energy that I hadn’t seen too often up until this point in my life, so I figured she was living life in a way that was different than most. She seemed to be on a different wavelength than the majority of people in America (as of the day I’m writing this in November 2013).
Last week I walked into a Pete’s Coffee in the Sacramento area. This girl came around the corner. My aura automatically lifted and my eyes lit up, stunned by her presence. I said without thinking: “You hair is so beautiful!” Vivid, red, small ringlets cascaded halfway down her back. I recognized her beauty and spoke on it. She smiled and blushed, a similar reaction I had a few years earlier. A quiet one, she rang me up at the cashwrap. What’s interesting is that a few hours later as I was leaving the shop when they were closing, one of her coworkers said, “See you tomorrow!” with a lot of warmth and certainty, in a similar voice I complimented her coworker with earlier. This is the first time I’d ever set foot in this Pete’s, and I had conversed only about 10 words with this coworker a few minutes earlier. I’m wondering what caused her to say that. It was as if she read my mind. I was thinking to come back tomorrow, and that I liked the calm atmosphere and the kind girls working there. I wonder if the redhead told her of my compliment and she wanted my energy there again with them.
There is so much beauty in the world. I’m talking about more than physical beauty. Someone’s personality, their warmth, kindness, generosity, consideration, families, communities, sceneries, landscapes, art, music, houses, fashion...there’s so much! What we put out into the world, we also get back, so by acknowledging the beauty around us, we are acknowledging our own beauty at the same time. When we do this we’re also more at peace with ourselves and we open the doors to more abundance in our lives. It’s about paying it forward, too. You pay a compliment to someone, and because you did, they do the same and pay a compliment to another person, and it’s a never ending chain of compliments! So let’s recognize women’s- and all kinds of other beauty- around us for a better, more beautiful, more abundant life!
If you like what you’ve read so far, stay tuned and check out my upcoming book: 8 Values of a Cancer Conquering Personal Stylist: How to Love Yourself and Feel Beautiful to be released in January 2014!
In the comments below, tell us about the best compliment you’ve ever had from another woman. Let’s have some extra lady love time and give some shout outs!
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