Wardrobe Purging: Why, Who, What, When & Where

When was the last time you purged your wardrobe? Doing this means getting rid of items you own, leaving more than closet space available, but also emotional space as well. Room for more garments to experience life in and make new memories with.

Purge for a fresh start and wield the power of what you wear. A new wardrobe can equal a new you. Through my lymphoma journey I feel that now is the time to start fresh with my wardrobe, and you can too for whatever reason is important to you. Feel free to purge once a year as a default.

How to sort your wardrobe:

First write on a few pieces of paper the categories you're sorting for. I sorted for: Keep, Donate, and Sell. In the pic are my Donate and Sell piles. Next ask yourself some questions and literally sort each garment one at a time, putting it into one of these 3 piles.

Questions to sort by:

How does this garment make me feel? If a negative emotion surfaces, get rid of the item. And of course rule of thumb is if the garment makes you feel good, keep it :) Also ask yourself: Is this garment appropriate for my life as it is now? Keyword being now. If it is, keep it. If not, toss it. Also if you haven’t worn it in more than a year, toss it (except for maybe a few sentimental pieces you feel positive emotions with).

Should I donate or sell it?

Donate it all if you want. Sell what is in good condition and modern or trendy. If you don't know if an item is salable, you can take it to a consignment store and they'll let you know.

A few resources for purging your wardrobe

Donating:

Salvation Army

Goodwill

your local charity or thrift store

Selling in person:

Buffalo Exchange

Crossroads Trading Company

other consignment stores

Selling online:

Poshmark

Threadflip

other online communities

Most of what I own is in these bags, and most of it I’ve worn over the past few years. I have all kinds of memories tied to these clothes. Yes, what you wear is an emotional experience. Think about it. When you want to be cozy, which sweatshirt or sweater do you snuggle up with? Which jeans have you worn so many times there’s holes in em and you have so many memories with?! Which special piece reminds you of that special someone? This is one way we sort our wardrobe: by the emotional experience we have when we wear it.

The goal is joy and happiness and feeling in complete integrity with who you are. And of course looking great for your body type, personality, and lifestyle. When you feel joy and happiness in what you wear and are following a few guidelines for appropriateness, personal integrity, and the occasion at hand, you’re unstoppable. Think about it. What’s that power dress or power outfit you have that when you put it on you feel like the most badass woman around and a like a million bucks? That’s what I’m talkin about. This is what you want for yourself. If you don’t have this already, GET it! Maybe I can help you with this...

So happy sorting and purging peeps, and guess what! You don’t need a new year as reason to do it. Like Jim Rohn says, “If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.” :D

In the comments below, share with us:

-Your experience with wardrobe purging

-How you felt when you got rid of that one item you’ve held on to for longer than you needed

-Your questions

Thanks for reading and let’s connect at KacieMay.com

Recognizing Other Women’s Beauty

I used to think that it was a competition- who was the most beautiful? Or like the witch in Sleeping Beauty said, “Who is the fairest of them all?” If you come from a perspective of competition, that could mean that there is only so much to go around, and that there’s only one winner, only one most beautiful woman. This could be a fear based way of thinking. What I’m learning is that you can only love others as much as you love yourself. There were times when I thought, “You’re so beautiful” when meeting physically beautiful or spiritually beautiful women. I realized I wasn’t telling them, I was just thinking it. I used to be afraid to speak on it. I changed and decided to tell them. I noticed that once I did, they lit up! And so did I.

Marianne Williamson writes, “As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Maybe this enlightening was triggered by a spa event I attended sometime in 2010. Two women were presenting. One of the women came to the stage and while she was speaking, looked directly at me in the 2nd row and said “You are so beautiful”, in  a high pitched, enthusiastic and fascinated tone. Maybe it was how I made up my face that day, or what I was wearing, or maybe it was my spirit that she recognized. Whatever it was, when she said that I smiled and maybe blushed too, and she smiled back. This was a woman who loved herself a lot. She was also living a life she consciously chose and designed. I know this because it’s what she told us. She also had a huge, emanating, positive energy that I hadn’t seen too often up until this point in my life, so I figured she was living life in a way that was different than most. She seemed to be on a different wavelength than the majority of people in America (as of the day I’m writing this in November 2013).

Last week I walked into a Pete’s Coffee in the Sacramento area. This girl came around the corner. My aura automatically lifted and my eyes lit up, stunned by her presence. I said without thinking: “You hair is so beautiful!” Vivid, red, small ringlets cascaded halfway down her back. I recognized her beauty and spoke on it. She smiled and blushed, a similar reaction I had a few years earlier. A quiet one, she rang me up at the cashwrap. What’s interesting is that a few hours later as I was leaving the shop when they were closing, one of her coworkers said, “See you tomorrow!” with a lot of warmth and certainty, in a similar voice I complimented her coworker with earlier. This is the first time I’d ever set foot in this Pete’s, and I had conversed only about 10 words with this coworker a few minutes earlier. I’m wondering what caused her to say that. It was as if she read my mind. I was thinking to come back tomorrow, and that I liked the calm atmosphere and the kind girls working there. I wonder if the redhead told her of my compliment and she wanted my energy there again with them.

There is so much beauty in the world. I’m talking about more than physical beauty. Someone’s personality, their warmth, kindness, generosity, consideration, families, communities, sceneries, landscapes, art, music, houses, fashion...there’s so much! What we put out into the world, we also get back, so by acknowledging the beauty around us, we are acknowledging our own beauty at the same time. When we do this we’re also more at peace with ourselves and we open the doors to more abundance in our lives. It’s about paying it forward, too. You pay a compliment to someone, and because you did, they do the same and pay a compliment to another person, and it’s a never ending chain of compliments! So let’s recognize women’s- and all kinds of other beauty- around us for a better, more beautiful, more abundant life!

If you like what you’ve read so far, stay tuned and check out my upcoming book: 8 Values of a Cancer Conquering Personal Stylist: How to Love Yourself and Feel Beautiful to be released in January 2014!

In the comments below, tell us about the best compliment you’ve ever had from another woman. Let’s have some extra lady love time and give some shout outs!

Thanks for reading and let’s connect at KacieMay.com

2 Amazing Ways to Alleviate Cancer and Other Illnesses

Hey everyone!

I’m finding I’m referring a lot of people to these two resources to help rid them of their cancer and other illnesses. I’m not a doctor. I’m healing from Hodgkin’s Lymphoma - I say I conquered it- and have been on quite a wild ride the past two years. These are only two treatments out of what I’ve experienced.

Watch me speak on it here: http://youtu.be/5hmASOkxtNE

Here the resources:

1. Dr. Lubecki, located in Fair Oaks, CA

He’s helped people achieve miracles for over 30 years.

www.lubecki-chiropractic.com

What he’s done for one woman in particular is astounding!

Read: Conquering Cancer by Susan Gorkosky and John Lubecki D.C.  

http://amzn.to/1c4s3CA

The morning after I first saw him- this was several months ago- the swelling in a lymph node in my neck decreased by HALF! I haven’t seen this type of dramatic result with any other treatment I’ve done so far. Thank you so much William for referring me to him!

What I love about him, besides the results I just mentioned, is that he helps alleviate people’s conditions at such an amazing value, and he actually teaches you how to use some specific equipment to help yourself at home.

2. An AMAZING book. Read: Wisdom to Wellness: Healing Your Emotional Sufferings So Your Physical Healing Can Follow by Maureen Minnehan Jones

http://amzn.to/17i3813

I’m in the middle of reading this book as I write this. I wish I had known about it and read it a few years ago! Thank you so much Stephanie for gifting me this book.

Here’s the most profound part I’ve read so far:

‘All disease encompasses four emotional sufferings:

1. Resentment

2. Anger that can turn into rage

3. Powerlessness

4. Lack of self love’

She also writes, ‘The universal soul discovery of cancer is to heal judgment of ourselves and the outside world.’

She breaks down a LOT of illnesses- the specific emotional sufferings and also universal soul discoveries for them. It’s amazing!

As I read on, I discovered four different affirmations we can say to flip the switch; to live a healthier life via feeling healthy emotions. Say and feel these daily! They are:

From this moment forward I make all decisions based on the truth that I am a treasure, I am a precious gem, I am love itself.

I am safe and protected. I am always there for and support myself, and I can discern who can be there for me and support me and I allow that.

From this moment forward, I make all decisions based on the truth that I have my personal power. I send power out to the world with ease and then I help empower others.

I feel my anger or resentment then release the anger or resentment out of my body every time it comes up. I fill that area with a loving energy, then I ask myself what I need and fulfill my own need deep inside.

Though I have not been treated by Maureen as of the date I’m writing this, I’m finding many A-HA’s while reading her book, and I do believe a big factor about why lymphoma came about in my body was due to these four emotional sufferings. It seems there can or could be many causes of cancer, and our emotions are one, according to this book.

Please share this with your loved ones. I hope it helps you as much as it is helping me, and I’d love to know how. Also feel free to share what treatments or therapies have helped you in your journey to complete healing.

Let’s connect at kaciemay.com

Thanks for reading and stay tuned!

Meet Me: How I'm Contributing

Hey hey!

If you don’t know me yet, I go by Kacie May,

that’s K-A-C-I-E.

M-A-why? Because I GOTTA!

Yep, I’m a goofball….

I am also a light sharer and a visionary.

I help women feel beautiful in what they wear,

give amazing skin with dead sea products at a great value,

and I help people earn what they’re worth and live their dream lives.

I’ve been on a journey the past few years- spiritual, emotional, mental, physical-

conquering cancer- lymphoma that is- and

I’m writing a book called 8 Values of a Cancer Conquering Personal Stylist: How to Love Yourself & Feel Beautiful.

I’m writing this book to share my story and knowledge with the world, to be vulnerable in a huge way, and to give value to people, especially women. My mission with it is to spread messages of living light, self love, and feeling beautiful in what you wear. People all over the world will purchase a copy of this book, and I’ll be doing speaking engagements partly because of it, too.

I’m going to share with you the 8 unofficial titles right now, and look for videos and or blog posts about these in the near future.

1. Live with empathy, humanity & vulnerability
2. Value your voice
3. Own who you physically are by looking within
4. Address yourself to best dress yourself
5. Love & dress your current physical self
6. Be open to things you might initially reject
7. Find the silver lining & focus on it
8. Consistently develop yourself

Another way I help women feel beautiful is in person

where we work with your personality, lifestyle, & body type

the clothes you have now

and/or some new ones.

I’m on a mission to spread these ideas and values and more, and I’m also helping to launch a revolution called Seacret, where we’re at the beginning of creating a wealthy community in several countries already and just getting started...

I’m learning that we’re here living to connect.

To share experiences and stories.

To lift each other up and pay it forward.

When you solve enough people’s problems, guess what? Yours are solved. Imagine living in a reality where this happens.

Share in the comments below your thoughts, one thing you love about yourself, and/or how you're contributing.

If you like this blog, "like" it, leave a comment, and share it with your friends. And check out http://KacieMay.com for more of the scoop to creating a you that you love!

Love you all and stay tuned…